By: Ben Peters

Ben Peters — Sat, 28 Nov 2020 06:01:38 +0000

In reply to rawgod. I'm sorry you had to go through those things. I can't imagine what that must be like even all these years later. Sending you light and love from where I am.

By: rawgod

rawgod — Wed, 19 Aug 2020 10:12:10 +0000

I cannot and will nor speak for anyone else, but I had the ultimate misfortune of being in the right place at the wrong time to study a master of anger, my birth father. He never knew it, but he taught me everything I never wanted to know about anger. Moreover, he taught me well how to manipulate others into believing the “myth of using anger as a weapon.” Every night, home from work, I would watch as he worked himself into a rage over nothing at all, same process every evening including Saturday, and Sunday. Complain, complain, complain, bitch, bitch, bitch, Bitch, Yell Yell Yell YELL, BOOM, BASH, BANG, CLATTER, Clatter, clatter (the latter being bodies flying into walls or rolling down stairs.) After my mother died when I was about nine, though I did not know it at the time, my sisters were being raped and otherwise molested. This lasted till the mid-60s when every last one of his children either moved away, got married really young, or like me and a few of my brothers who ran away. Anything you want to know about anger, don’t be araid to ask. Two of his sons became family abusers, two including me never had children, one died young, and the other two tried their best, but did not succeed in stopping mental abuse. One sister did not have children either.
I am not looking for pity, or sympathy. I have dealt with my childhood as best I can. But facts are facts, my siblings and myself were terrorized, and we all suffer or suffered CHILDHOOD PTSD, though I have no idea is there even such a diagnosis. One brother never admitted he was abused, but he was the meekest man I ever met, until late in life when he met his second wife, who somehow helped him to heal. He had a good seven years before he died. I thank her for that.
Me, I was fortunate to turn 16 in the mid-60s. I dropped out of society, joined the hippies (which is a fallacy, you could not join a group of individuals who thought for themselves!) I have been a pacifist all my life, but I can be very self-assertive when necessary. I will go to my cremation as a spiritual atheist, and a responsible anarchist. I will leave you to decide if those are oxymorons, or actual conditions of life.
Thank you for providing yet another platform for my story. Hopefully, as time goes on, the human race will outgrow its need for violence, but especially its viewpoint on anger. Anger is not an emotion, it is a choice. We as humans need to learn how to make better choices.

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